This site has been set up to assist anyone who is an emerging psychic, or medium, and in particular, to reach out a helping hand to young widows. This is due to the fact that it’s not uncommon for those of us who lose partners to find that our awareness of psychic phenomena often leads us to having a lot of questions, some deeper understandings, and a yearning to know more about what’s happened to our loved one(s) as well as our own places in this journey as it unfolds.
About me: Dixie Maria Carlton – widowed while pregnant at the age of 31 – has been on an extraordinary journey through 18 years and discovered that her powerful and growing gift of mediumship coupled with her training as a coach has enabled her to empathetically help many other young widow/widowers and grieving partners. Parts of her story are found on this site, and her wisdom is shared for anyone to access.
A standing invitation exists for other’s to post their stories and share their wisdom for the benefit of others too.
Many of us have had experiences that for us are normal but give others goosebumps. Some of us are quite psychic and others just wonder what’s that all about. And most importantly, for most of us (so far as I can see) we walk firmly and tall in the ‘real human world’ but have a deep understanding of the spiritual world. And yet because we are not ‘most people’s idea of what a medium or psychic person does, says or looks like’ we are able to bring a certain new level of ‘normal’ into the mainstream corporate cultures and SME workplaces we enter into through our work. Nowadays, being ‘intuitive’ in our coaching or presenting styles is quite acceptable.
So – my thoughts around setting up The Blue Flame, are as a means of our being able to share some of our inspirational journeys and moments, to give a sense of belonging and community in this area to those of us who have regular ‘ooky spooky’ moments in our every day ‘normal’ lives and to become a place where can I find out about or discuss this odd occurrence, and this is the important part – without wading through the many dedicated ‘spiritual/psychic/medium websites that are out there. Because that’s not what this is about.
Now – the inspiration behind this and the meaning of The Blue Flame
I’ve lots of stories to tell and for me a journey of becoming aware of my guides and guardian angels started soon after the death of my husband. This has at times been quite amazing and I’ve been privileged to work with some cool people (on this side) including a few mediums, and a Buddhist monk, as well as a couple of coaches with similar experiences in terms of channelling. All of these people have been like me in that we all quite like sitting firmly on the mainstream track, and like to bring this sense of ‘you don’t have to be witchy-weird, or ethereal in any way etc to be a normal psychic person who has stories to tell that would make others go ‘ooh’ or ‘eeew’.
But sometimes things happen and you just want to ask someone else who ‘gets’ you to understand, listen or comment. From dreams needing to be interpreted to serendipity moments that just stop you in your tracks.
What I’ve discovered is that we are all having these moments, but it’s very hard to connect with others who do because it’s a bit of a secret society. Also, we all have a greater purpose (mine I’m sure is to facilitate communication at lots of levels, and in lots of ways), and we are all being guided in our own purpose but sometimes that can be lonely too.
The Blue Flame is something I was shown in a very deep meditation and I pondered on it for a while wondering what on earth it was. I thought about emailing a couple of people to see if anyone had any answers, as I found that even the internet was very heavy to wade through on this one. I finally found the answers – the Blue Flame is a primary source of energy – the source of all other energies and in presented in the power of intent, cause, direction, centralization and unity. It’s keynote is Divine Will. The basic qualities of the blue flame are manifested through the energies of power, strength, faith and protection.
It took a lot of searching to find this out – and it finally all made sense, especially when I considered where it came from. My helping other widows on their journey of understanding about this strange world of loss and grief is also served well by my understanding the Blue Flame concept. The source of all other energies presented in the power of intent, direction, centralization and unity – for me represents the need for us to share what we know, to talk through our experiences and explore what we learn and sometimes need to share, as a means of being a torchbearer for other widowed people. When it feels as though one half of our being has been taken from us, our need for centralisation and unity is stronger than ever, even while we stand alone and lonely on our individual journies.
And so – here is my blog, you can follow what I have to say, or write and contribute your own experiences and thoughts. Comments will be moderated before publishing – but it is my hope that what serves as a gathering and resource place for those of us interested and hungry for more information will grow and also assist in our individual abilities to grow and learn on our spiritual journeys.